tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post7012849060892342549..comments2023-04-05T08:21:25.480-07:00Comments on Amateur Bot-ann-ist: Garden for Sale or How to Grow ApartAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-65025645425738902362012-02-12T00:20:32.615-08:002012-02-12T00:20:32.615-08:00I have been reading your blog for a few months, bu...I have been reading your blog for a few months, but this is the first time I've posted a comment. Although I haven't been through what you're going through now, I totally get why you don't feel much like gardening right now (I still haven't completely regained my garden mojo after various losses in my own life, and am just kind of going through the motions out there).<br /><br />I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, that you will have the strength to deal with whatever life throws your way, and if things have to change in your life, I hope they only change for the better.<br /><br />--Janis--Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-10399512271255965362012-02-11T17:30:08.355-08:002012-02-11T17:30:08.355-08:00Ann,
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation...Ann,<br />I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. During the hardest time is when I've learned the most about myself and what I can accomplish. Please don't give up on your garden. Gardening has taught me so much about growth and renewal. Remember you can do it!Kathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03433116418603812108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-46801792096017517342012-02-11T08:23:17.454-08:002012-02-11T08:23:17.454-08:00Thank you Patricia.Thank you Patricia.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-74161100403823901712012-02-11T08:21:55.436-08:002012-02-11T08:21:55.436-08:00Thank you so much and it is wonderful you mentione...Thank you so much and it is wonderful you mentioned walking! Now that I am less swollen than I have been in years, I've been doing a bit more of that to sort through my thoughts. As I've walked along, I've seen the future and have been eased in my journey by admiring the gardens of others in a different light. I see hope in the hard work of other gardeners right now and realize that so many other folks have been here too. This gives me strength in a funny way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-80517444333886172322012-02-11T07:37:43.222-08:002012-02-11T07:37:43.222-08:00Ann, my heart goes out to you. There are many stor...Ann, my heart goes out to you. There are many stories within every marriage. To me, it seems bold and generous that you acknowledge your husband's having his own stories. None of us knows what the future holds, which makes it all the more important that we like-minded gardening folk hold each other with gentility and uncommon care. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-67311091214701255952012-02-11T06:20:17.156-08:002012-02-11T06:20:17.156-08:00Hello Ann. This is the first comment I have made o...Hello Ann. This is the first comment I have made on your blog. This is a very difficult time for you. Change is always hardest when its forced upon us. But isn't change what gardens are all about? It sounds like its time for you to move on. From him, from the home you really didn't fully share, from the dream of being together and thriving, like a garden. You are a gifted and generous person, and maybe when his shadow moves on from blotting out your energy, you will come out into the sunlight and THRIVE. The truth will ALWAYS set you free. Your journey is a beautiful one. Thank you for sharing it with us. Take heart! It is always darkest before the light. Keep writing. Keep playing in the dirt with the rest of us. It is always forgiving, always giving back to us. When you are feeling down, JWA: just walk away. Down the street, around the corner, out into the sunlight, or rain, or out into the garden. I wish you health and happiness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-31860324818244813142012-02-10T15:21:18.143-08:002012-02-10T15:21:18.143-08:00I have read of other gardeners having to do this i...I have read of other gardeners having to do this in the past and that is giving me a kind of hope and direction right now. Thank you for your thoughts.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-66558701371983663892012-02-10T14:38:51.036-08:002012-02-10T14:38:51.036-08:00Very sorry to hear this. I recall always being con...Very sorry to hear this. I recall always being concerned when you said he was in CA all the time. Being separate is never good for a marriage or any other relationship. take care of yourself, as you know the stress is not good for your illness. Take each day at a time, be strong , chin up. Pray for God to do what is best for you both. Remember even if you ever have to leave this garden, another is waiting to be created by you somewhere else, always.Antique ART Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674268803389194210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-36924855707686118262012-02-10T13:59:38.743-08:002012-02-10T13:59:38.743-08:00Mr Brown Thumb,
Thank you for wishing us the best....Mr Brown Thumb,<br />Thank you for wishing us the best. Since we're not bad people, I think we'll rest a bit and figure this out.<br /><br />As for the genre bending, I think I truly am more into this whole garden blog thing for the writing more than anything else, and I'm not sure my honesty is all that rare, but maybe that's just me wanting more from folks. I think we need to spice things up a bit around here. Gardens are meaningless without us and with the amount of time some of us pour into these blogs I always want to know more about the critical triggers inside of folks. <br /><br />I think you all just learned a lot more about mine!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-37863312963472321442012-02-10T13:48:35.368-08:002012-02-10T13:48:35.368-08:00Heather,
It is probably more fair than I let on. ...Heather, <br />It is probably more fair than I let on. There are so many things I left out. It is true that I was not a "perfect white angel" as my husband just put it. I agree with him. I was the chronically ill hobbit of a wife who turned gremlin on him when I was feeling bad and I will take total responsibility for that—maybe another post is coming...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-57118547531005302342012-02-10T12:19:08.375-08:002012-02-10T12:19:08.375-08:00Ann,
I don't know you or your husband, but I...Ann, <br /><br />I don't know you or your husband, but I hope it all works out for you both in the end. I would like to thank you for sharing something so personal on your garden blog though. It's rare to come across a garden blog post where we are given access to the person's life and inner workings.MrBrownThumbhttp://mrbrownthumb.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-29102011054628587902012-02-10T11:18:11.461-08:002012-02-10T11:18:11.461-08:00I'm so very sorry, Ann. This whole situation i...I'm so very sorry, Ann. This whole situation is so unfair.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10404180898034770946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-74236968499519927842012-02-10T07:34:26.263-08:002012-02-10T07:34:26.263-08:00Chris,
Thank you so much for your beautiful words...Chris, <br />Thank you so much for your beautiful words. I cannot begin to tell you how much I appreciate them right now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-58152695324070953952012-02-10T03:40:55.925-08:002012-02-10T03:40:55.925-08:00Ann, I am so sorry. If you can take any strength f...Ann, I am so sorry. If you can take any strength from the goodwill of strangers, you have mine. I would try to plant those annuals. We're gardeners and our gardens exist in some alchemical sense as microcosmic reflections of our lives. When life is difficult the gardens we've created can give strength back to us. <br /><br />Your gift with words, with language, seems to be a blessing and a curse. Words, even at the best of times, can't accurately reflect feelings or situations. We go over and over thoughts and we get trapped in that fraudulent calculus. Plant your annuals and wait for them. We're gardeners; we know some stuff about time.ChrisUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18058297328565374089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-63485488654044523062012-02-09T21:52:05.662-08:002012-02-09T21:52:05.662-08:00Alison,
I think that the words agony and sadness ...Alison, <br />I think that the words agony and sadness are 100% accurate. Thank you so much because, in a way, so much of this has to do with the garden and I knew that other gardeners would understand. Somehow, the garden has become like some kind of third party in our marriage, but maybe that's because we don't have any children. Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and virtual hugs. I really need them right now. I am in a weird place and everything feels so much different.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08720485909592974251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7778034964111352393.post-1826241994639326032012-02-09T21:46:14.014-08:002012-02-09T21:46:14.014-08:00Oh Ann! My heart is breaking for you and with you....Oh Ann! My heart is breaking for you and with you. Your agony and sadness come through so strongly in this post. You are obviosuly hurting so bad. I don't know if it will help, but I'm sending virtual hugs and positive vibes.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16323262555906240701noreply@blogger.com